Do you feed your child organic unicorn poop as part of your parenting style? No? That’s okay, it doesn’t matter anyways. Here is why!
This is my late Father’s Day post for my husband (and for others who get tired of father’s being told they are fit to parent).
I wanted to let you know that after much careful deliberation by our family, we have decided that it is time to move to a platform that better suits the direction I want my writing to take. This is not a decision that we take lightly – newcrunchymom.com (previously thatnewcrunchymom.wordpress.com) has built a lot of brand equity over the past 9 months and we don’t want to lose that, nor the community we’ve built together with you.
That said, my identity as a mother is just one facet of who I am and what I have to say, so the moniker “new crunchy mom” ends up pigeon-holing me (if only psychologically) into a category too narrow for the scope of things I aspire to. I chose that name to hide my real identity, so even though I’ve become more well-known, it still feels like I’m hiding behind a mask (like Batman, according to my husband).
So instead, I will now be primarily operating as Rebecca Lemke, and have formed a new home-base blog to match! 🙂 I want to thank those who have come with me this far, and I really appreciate you for sticking with me through several changes (and ostensibly through this one as well). Rest assured, newcrunchymom.com is not closing its doors, though I will favor posting on rebeccalemke.com from here on out.
For those with questions about the giveaway coming up, it will be happening on newcrunchymom.com and it will be happening in the next week or two. The reason it has been delayed is because there was another shop interested in contributing it’s wonderful products.
Again, thank you all for your loyalty. It is appreciated more than words can express. All of my social media channels will be the same, except for the names being changed to my real name. <3
Here is our first post on the new site:
Today Bubba has been a bit rambunctious. He has gotten into anything and everything he could get his hands on! He has been going non-stop since he woke up just before 8am this morning.
We ate some breakfast together this morning and he had butternut squash baby food and a few bites of my sweet potato as well. He managed to get it all over himself, the floor, in his diaper and on me. Yay butternut squash! :p Good news is he is finally getting interested in solids.
After I got him cleaned up, I unleashed him on the living room to play. He rode around on his little toy car for a while and honked the horn as he crashed into the front door. He was mad that I wouldn’t let him outside with it because it is raining and dreary out. Not content with this, he half-waddled, half-crawled over to the window to look outside. He is just shy of 13 months and at the cruising stage now. He will walk, but only with one hand touching the furniture.
And so, he cruised toward our indoor garden that sits at the window to get sun throughout the day. We only have a few plants sitting on the windowsill, but Bubba thinks they are all pretty interesting. Today he pulled out both of the avocado pits out of their dishes, took the bowls they were sitting in and dumped them on top of his head. He was a bit shocked each time, but I let him do it to see if he would learn his lesson. He cried and shook the second time as the water dripped off his head and came crawling to me for me to hold him.
After a little cuddling, I made him help me clean up the water. I just gave him a little rag to help me mop it up and he used the windowsill to hold as he squatted and dabbed at the spots with me.
He touched the lettuce in a similar bowl with water and I told him, “No, be gentle.” He smiled and used one finger to lightly poke one of the leaves. I pulled it out for him and let him feel along the leaf and showed him the pattern of it. He thought that was pretty cool. 🙂
We also have an orange flower plant living in a pot and a glass of water (Bubba ripped off a stem and I have been trying to extend its life a little). This plant is his favorite, I think it is because he really likes the color orange. He continually tries to take the stem out of the glass I have it in to play with it. I always tell him no and put it back, but today I noticed something.
I took the stem in his hand to put it back in the cup and he started blowing on the top where the flowers were. I realized he thought that the flowers were similar to some weeds New Crunchy Dad blows on because they will fly away. You are supposed to blow on them and make a wish and he thought that it would work with flowers too. 😉 He held it up for me to blow and I played along.
He even dipped them in the lettuce water and blew on them so that the droplets would fly everywhere!
It was pretty darn cute! 🙂 We had a lot of fun taking turns blowing on the flowers. It is crazy what babies pick up on and how they apply it.
What adorable thing has your kiddo done today? 🙂
New Crunchy Mom
Guys, I am so tired.
I never truly understand why I heard all of these parents saying they were tired when I was younger (and naive). How could they possibly be tired? Don’t babies sleep all of the time?
Only now do I realize how misguided my expectations were! I wrote several months ago about Bubba not sleeping through the night and it is still true. It isn’t that bad since we dream feed (I breastfeed him while he is still asleep so he never fully wakes up during the night), I still get quite a bit of sleep because of that. But recently, Bubba has taken up a rather peculiar activity for his bedtime routine. One that is very long and drawn out, usually lasting about two hours past his normal bedtime.
You see, Bubba has three fake phones that he likes to play with, and at night, there are some pressing phone calls he must attend to. He will stand at the windowsill and jabber into his purple plastic phone while doing a little dance with his little cloth diaper booty. I can only guess that this is his baby version of twerking. It is cute, until about 1AM.
What his business is on the phone at this hour, I have yet to come up with an explanation. My husband’s theory is that he is trying to convince one of his baby buddies to take him clubbing and hopes that I will fall asleep before his little friend arrives. 😉
All we really know is that he repeats “Baowa!” into his purple baby phone hundreds of times between midnight and 2AM. Every night. For almost a week now.
Every time I take the phone away he will sorrowfully mumble “Baooooowaaaaa” and hang his head. It is so sad and adorable!
My toddler has a mysterious midnight caller and it makes me feel a little uncool. Like, how does he have this secret special person in his head that wants to keep him awake until two in the morning to talk to him and the only time he is desperate enough to ask for me is when he has pooped or his hungry! 🙁
Perhaps I am being a tad dramatic considering his friend is fictional, but have I mentioned I haven’t gotten much sleeeee……*ZZZzzzzzzzzz*
Anyone else have a toddler that does this? :D Tell me what weird behaviors your babies do in the middle of the night!
New Crunchy Mom
Hi there! If you have ever been a friend of mine on my personal Facebook, liked the blog Facebook page or followed this blog after a certain time, you’ve probably noticed that despite the fact that I talk about breastfeeding with some regularity, I don’t have any breastfeeding photos posted.
That might seem a little weird to you, and maybe you’ve wondered what the deal is. If you belong to one of the mommy groups I am in, have been following me from the beginning of this blog, or were following me since I began the Facebook page, you might remember a few times when I did post a few breastfeeding photos, but if you were to look for them today you wouldn’t find them. There is only one breastfeeding photo of my son and I that could be found online now, and it is a very small or cropped photo.
So why are they all gone? Why don’t I regular post breastfeeding photos to help #normalizebreastfeeding?
The answer is pretty simple to the second question, I prefer to write or talk instead of post a photo.
The answer to the first could be a touchy subject, but I am going to talk about it anyways. The reason you won’t find any past or future breastfeeding photos of me and my son is because my husband asked me not to post them.
When he asked me not to post any, it was amidst thepublicblogger competition and I had already released a professional breastfeeding photo to be used in the promos. It was already too late to take it back, and my husband was grieved about that. I hadn’t consulted him about posting breastfeeding photos (I consult him about everything) because it never crossed my mind. I was being told by other women that it was normal to post lots of breastfeeding photos all the time and any objections that were raised were considered outlandish.
Then my husband objected. Then my husband raised concerns. He didn’t just raise concerns, he was visibly wounded by my lack of consideration for his feelings on the matter. We talk to each other about nearly every decision in life, especially what goes on our social media accounts, so this was out of the ordinary.
I was saddened and confused. One side was telling me it was “my body, my choice” and that any objectors had to be insane and the other was asking me with a vulnerable and genuine heart to please not post breastfeeding photos. The voices of people who I thought were my friends would rally against people like this, like my husband. It was dividing, and everything I thought I knew about breastfeeding and society was thrown out the window.
I went back through my blog, Facebook and mommy groups and deleted the photos I had posted.
The truth was, and is, that it isn’t “my body, my choice” to post breastfeeding photos. My belief in Christ is central to my life, and the bible states in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 that our bodies are temples and all we are to honor God with our bodies. In order to honor God, I also honor the vocations I have taken on in this world. Namely honoring, loving and respecting the man I swore to when I married him. The man I gave myself to and said I trusted him to take care of me, even if I wouldn’t agree to everything he decided. I think it is important to note, even before I got married, my body was not my own, but a gift from God that I am a steward of and I regret entertaining a different way of thinking, even for a moment.
My husband didn’t make this request to be mean, or to flex some sort of dominating patriarchal muscles as some might suggest. He did it for the benefit and good or myself and our son, whom he has taken on the responsibility to protect. While I don’t intend to go through all his reasons, I will discuss part of them.
Many people claim that breastfeeding isn’t sexual. I would say that they are right, in most instances. With as much sexual abnormality that has been widely condoned by our culture, I don’t see breastfeeding fetishes as being stigmatized for much longer. I’ve heard stories of women being solicited to be nursed by grown men, or be told that their photos would be used for sexual activities. Before I might have considered these scenarios to be rare, but I personally know many women who have told me things like this. The perversion that our society is capable of is nothing to be underestimated.
While I was searching for a photo to use with the term “breastfeeding” for my last post on twiddling while breastfeeding, I was surprised to find that many of the photos were tagged with terms like “erotic”, “sensual” and “sexy”. Breastfeeding photos, guys. This was more than one photographer tagging their photos like this too!
Any doubts that I had heard about the concerns based on sexualization of breastfeeding, whether made by my husband or others, suddenly started gaining a little more credibility in my mind.
After I did a little bit of digging in my analytics trying to find search terms to see if my site had ever been visited by an unwanted search, I was surprised to find that a lot of my audience is male. About this same time, one of my readers began asking me a little bit about breastfeeding.
Turns out, breastfeeding pictures don’t normalize breastfeeding in male eyes as much as you might think. Instead, it makes breastfeeding an exotic unknown, which might be how it manages to be sensual to them in the first place. As we spoke, he confessed he really didn’t know much about how breastfeeding worked. What he did know was that it supposedly felt good.
While it was a little bit awkward, I decided to explain what breastfeeding has been like for me and what it can be like and has been for other women. There are so many different things about breastfeeding that we don’t talk about and even shame other women for, it is no small wonder that the topic is filled with lots of glamorous (or nursing gymnastics) photos, but we don’t really discuss what it is like to the people who would sexualize breastfeeding to begin with (not that I am saying my friend would, but speaking about males in general).
Ultimately my husband requesting that no uncovered breastfeeding photos be put on social media was the right call for our family, and I understand it is a decision that won’t be understood by most.
Am I saying you should live in fear because there are creeps on the internet? No way! I’m not even saying that breastfeeding photos are bad. I totally understand the excitement and wanting to show people the bond you have with your baby! I respect my husband so much and I regret that he was apprehensive in requesting this of me because he thought I would be angry or upset. This topic is just one that I chose to address because our family’s stance on breastfeeding photos is unique and the breastfeeding experience looks different for everyone. For us, it looks like this. 🙂
What do you think? Do you post breastfeeding photos?
Hi there! 🙂 Today Bubba and I wanted to share with you a video we created on our top ten tips for productivity for you busy moms out there.
We know that, like us, you have limited time, energy, and resources to accomplish the things you want to. It can be especially challenging when you are responsible for the munchkin that is trailing behind you and watching your every move. We want you to know, you aren’t alone!
I struggle with this on a daily basis, but have still been able to begin writing a book, work on making videos and blogging, cloth diaper, cook all of our meals and so much more, all while taking care of Bubba! If I can just a few of these things on a daily basis, you can accomplish your goals too!
In the comments of this video there is a chance for you busy moms out there to tell us about your business, we’d love to hear about it and support you! Also, make sure you watch until the end of the video, we included our first blooper today. 😉
Thanks so much for watching and supporting us in all of our endeavors. <3 We love you all!
New Crunchy Mom
I know this post has been long-awaited. 🙂 I mentioned that we were making a breastfeeding cover in the post Changing Views on Breastfeeding awhile back and it took a bit longer than we expected to complete. My neighbor and I sewed it together but with two babies, it was hard to find the time!
We made it out of a blue fabric that I had initially bought to make into a sling to carry Bubba, but then he got chunky quickly, too much for me to be comfortable with carrying him in that stretchy of material. The fabric is Jacquard and it has a little pattern on it that looks like splatter marks. We made it using some DIY instructions found here! It isn’t an exact duplicate because I ended up not putting in the little tube that makes the cover flare out a bit, I just hold it out a bit while Bubba nurses so I can see his face. We also doubled the material because as we found out while working on it that one layer by itself can be seen through just slightly. Our cover has some jean type material for the neck piece so it doesn’t match completely, but I still love it. 😀
Apart from the fact that making a breastfeeding cover and wrangling two babies (they were interested in the peddle on the sewing machine) while trying to do so is time-consuming, there is another reason it took me awhile to get this post up…It is kind of hard to get a picture of the breastfeeding cover in action when you are the one nursing the baby! 😉 I’ve begged a few people to take some pictures while we use it so that you all could see what it looks like.
Bubba was 10 or 11 months when we started using our cover, but previously had gotten used to a cover that we borrowed when out and about with our neighbor. There were a few people who mention that Bubba might not take the transition well. He was used to being uncovered, and he saw most of his baby friends nursing uncovered (babies can be influenced by peer pressure). He has two or three baby friends that also nurse with a cover so I think that is why we didn’t have many problems making the switch.
We’ve actually had an easier time nursing with the cover than we did without. He is calmer, less wiggly (generally) and doesn’t hit, bite or kick as much. I am grateful for all of that because I had gotten to the point where I told New Crunchy Dad, “It is time to wean!” I ended up breaking out my pump (you can see which kind I have on our retail therapy page) and giving him a sippy cup equal to one of our nursing sessions so that I could get a break from being injured by him flailing. It was so upsetting and frustrating, but now that we are using the cover he is cuddly and will play patty cake under the cover if I offer. 🙂
I love that our breastfeeding cover is homemade, for price and because we were able to customize it. We definitely don’t regret the decision to start using a cover, in fact, I wish we would have used one from day one. It has been beneficial for our nursing relationship and made nip-slips a thing of the past! I call that a win-win 😉
What do you think of using a breastfeeding cover? Have you ever tried to make one?
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Hi there! 🙂
Fixing lunch with a toddler is a real challenge! Bubba is nearly a year old now and very mobile. He likes crawl into the kitchen to join me when I am trying to fix lunch. I make all of our meals from scratch due to various dietary restrictions and allergies (unless Bubba’s grandma makes food for us – thanks grandma!), so I spend a lot of time in the kitchen with Bubba under my feet or standing and balancing on the back of my knees. I buy a lot of frozen vegetables to minimize the time I’m running around with a knife and a baby on the floor, but there is still a significant amount of time I am peeling and cutting veggies.
In an effort to combat tripping over him with a sharp, pointy object in hand, I have to find ways to entertain him while I cook. He has a designated cabinet to play in, his own pots and pans, and plenty of toys to keep his attention. Of course, he isn’t interested in any of it. I’ve tried babywearing (back-carrying, because knives) in our Mei Tai too, but he always manages to grab and break something from off the counter. Sometimes I’ll even give him a clean potato to roll around and gnaw on until he gets it stuck under the cabinet and starts crying.
There is only one sure way that I have found to keep his attention long enough for me to fix a meal…I’ve made a list of 4 easy steps to take to fix lunch with your toddler so that you can make lunch without tripping over your toddler as well! 😉
Do you have any tips or tricks for cooking lunch with a toddler in the house? Tell me about them!
New Crunchy Mom