“Keith and Ben sit down and talk with Rebecca Lemke and talk about her new book, The Scarlet Virgins. Listen as they dive into this idea of purity culture and the harmful effects that it can actually have on young people.”
Hi dear readers!
I’m excited to announce…
We finally have the physical copy of The Scarlet Virgins available for purchase!
While you are waiting for your copy to arrive…
Homeschool Alumni Challenges Sexual Suppression Within The Church
For Immediate Release: June 6th, 2017
The Scarlet Virgins: When sex replaces salvation
Anatole Publishing, LLC
For questions call (580)554–2207 or email Rebecca@newcrunchymom.com
Spiritual abuse survivor speaks out on the suppression of sexuality within the Christian purity movement in book The Scarlet Virgins released June 1st, 2017.
“Spit-in water”, “de-petaled flower,” and “a chewed up piece of gum.” Homeschool alumni Rebecca Lemke and her peers heard these cringe-worthy phrases from Christian purity culture throughout their childhood. A push for purity by thought leaders like Joshua Harris was spurred on by cultural sexual permissiveness and high teen pregnancy rates in the 1990s. The enormous reach of this movement began to pervade Evangelical circles, even reaching the tiny Oklahoma town where Lemke grew up.
While the movement got its start as an effort to promote virginity, it quickly morphed into a legalistic and spiritually crushing agenda. Proponents of the purity movement drastically overstepped the bounds of theological soundness, causing a generation of young people to suffer from the crushing weight of being told their worth was found in whether or not they had kissed, hugged, held hands, or had sex.
In her new book, The Scarlet Virgins, Lemke addresses the spiritual, social, physical, and emotional consequences of the purity movement. While she regularly encounters backlash from openly discussing the issues that proceed from purity culture, such as sexual suppression, self-harm, and apostasy, she is firm in her desire to take a stand. “I don’t believe talking about something sensitive makes is de facto taboo,” Lemke says. “It simply means it needs to be discussed with empathy and respect.”
The Scarlet Virgins serves two purposes: To tell survivors of the purity movement that they are not alone, and to promote healing for those who have been wounded. The book can be purchased by going to the author’s website, scarletvirgins.com, or Amazon (digital and physical).
Growing up in purity culture, Rebecca and her female friends always heard phrases like “men are visual”, “boys will be boys”, etc. These phrases taught that men were perverted sex beasts due to their interest in sex and that women were more prim and proper, and naturally disinterested in sex.
In this episode, Rebecca talks about ladies who struggle with lust to let them know they aren’t alone and assures all who struggle that our identity is not found in our failings, but in Christ’s sacrifice!
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It is a great honor for me to announce that my first book, The Scarlet Virgins, is now available for purchase in digital format. If you were raised in purity culture, legalism, fundamentalism, and spiritual abuse, this is the book for you!
Here is the synopsis:
“A chewed up piece of gum.”
These cringe-worthy phrases from Christian purity culture ingrained themselves in the minds of the impressionable youth of my generation. Fearing the destruction of their children’s bodies and souls as the world around them became caught up in pushing a progressive sexual agenda, our parents and thought leaders rose up and sought to fight back against the lewdness and promiscuity surrounding us.
Unfortunately, their approach was entangled with fear and pain, going so far as to criminalize all forms of affection. This bore fruit of unprecedented physical, mental, and spiritual consequences as our worth and identity were found in what we did and didn’t do sexually, not in Christ and His sacrifice for us. The heavy-handed and legalistic emphasis on sexual-purity-at-all-costs left a legacy of emotional and spiritual devastation in its wake that follows many even into adulthood.
This book takes a vulnerable look at these issues through the eyes of someone who experienced it firsthand. It seeks to identify what purity culture got wrong and bring peace to the hearts of those whom it has wounded so deeply, by exposing the truth: It is Christ who makes us pure.
You can purchase the book here: Buy The Scarlet Virgins
For those wanting to get a physical copy, please allow another week or two for us to have those available. If you would like a signed copy, please email me at Rebecca@newcrunchymom.com.
“Joshua Harris’ famous (or infamous) book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye is a major piece of purity culture’s history. The content of this book is so controversial that many parents and children who grew up in the era this book influenced are still sorting out their thoughts about it!
In this episode, Rebecca discusses her current attitude towards the author and respectfully challenges many of his assertions.”
“Growing up, Rebecca was taught that modesty was a woman’s issue. She was told that men were visual and didn’t possess self-control, so it was the duty of her and her female friends to keep their male companions on the straight and narrow.
After leaving modesty and purity culture, Rebecca was introduced to the idea that women play no part in loving their male neighbors through their wardrobe. This rhetoric left her thinking: Am I my brother’s keeper?
In this episode, she recounts her experiences with both of these schools of thought and offers her Christ-focused approach as an alternative.”
Hi lovely readers!
I am so pleased to announce that the podcasts we were planning to release on the 27th are already done and processed, so we are surprising you with an early release! <3
These podcasts are bonus content for my upcoming book, The Scarlet Virgins (the release date for that is the 1st)! This is a book on purity culture, legalism, and spiritual abuse. The premise is that purity is good, but we should not make an idol out of it and it should always point us back to Christ.
Episodes for this podcast include things like “Ladies who Lust”, “Everything wrong with ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye'”, “Healing Wounds”, “Singleness and Relationships”, “Modesty”, “Mindset in Marriage”, “Pornography and Purity”, “Apostasy in Purity Culture”, and many more!
Here is how you can help:
If you have an iTunes account, please go RIGHT NOW and subscribe and download every episode. (use this link) There are twelve episodes total, but you may only see six until you subscribe. You don’t have to listen to any of them, but this will help me out tremendously.
Why? Because if enough people do this, I can get in New and Noteworthy (which I will stay in for anywhere between 2-8 weeks) and raise more awareness for the book! 🙂
If you’d like to go the extra mile, please listen to an episode or two and then rate and review the podcast.
Thank you so much everyone! I couldn’t ask for a better support system. <3
My book, The Scarlet Virgins will be published soon. You can look for it on the 31st of May or the 1st of June on the Scarlet Virgins website. This is a podcast interview with Challenging Opinions on the problems with the purity movement, especially after marriage. You can find other podcasts on the subject here.
If you are a blogger, podcast producer, or content creator and would like to interview Rebecca on her new book on purity culture, The Scarlet Virgins, please send inquiries to Rebecca@newcrunchymom.com
I am thrilled to announce that the website to accompany my upcoming book (The Scarlet Virgins) is now live through the tremendous and dedicated efforts of my wonderful husband, Thomas Lemke. The link can be found here: The Scarlet Virgins
On the website, you can expect to find five podcast episodes meant to supplement my book (with more to come on the 27th). One podcast that I think homeschooling parents and youth would be interested in is “Everything Wrong With I Kissed Dating Goodbye”, just as an example.
You can find the synopsis of the book on the “about” page and if you are so inclined, you can book me to come speak at your church or Christian school on the topics listed on the speaking page.
The most important feature of the website is the little button on the front page that says “Buy Here”. Because the book has not yet launched (we are looking at the 31st of May or the 1st of June as a release date), you can sign up for the Scarlet Virgins email list to be notified so you don’t miss it when it is released by clicking that button.
Happy mother’s day to all the mothers out there, including my amazing, supportive and patient mother.